MAY 2012______________________________________________                      McCormick Press

VOL. IX, Issue 5                                                                     www.lostmypartnerblog.com                                                                       

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The Lost My Partner Newsletter  

Brought to you monthly by Laurie Spector & Ruth Spector Webster, authors of Lost My Partner –What’ll I Do?  A Clear, Practical Guide for Coping and Finding Strength When Your Spouse Dies

MONTHLY FEATURE

Back by popular demand!

Getting the Family Through Mother’s Day and Father’s Day

Holidays can be difficult, especially during the first year after your loss. Like other holidays, Mother’s Day and Father’s Days are advertised everywhere and filled with reminders of happier family times.

These holidays may stir up the pain of loss for you, your children and grandchildren. Such occasions may also remind you of your own deceased parent(s).While others around them celebrate these occasions, children in particular can feel left out and troubled.

Try these tips with your family:

a) Acknowledge your own feelings of loss by talking about how you miss your spouse. When children see you sad or tearful it lets them know their own feelings are normal.

b) Have younger children create “remembering” cards, with photos or drawings of special memories about their parent or grandparent.

c) You may find it comforting to visit the cemetery or other places of remembrance on the holiday.

d) If there is a family gathering, make some time to share fond or funny memories of your loved one.

The feelings these holidays stir up won’t just go away. It’s best to acknowledge the occasions, even briefly, especially with children. Denying or avoiding a holiday tends to result in “delayed reactions”, where the emotions come up in unexpected ways. 

QUOTES ABOUT PARENTS

“Children learn to smile from their parents.” 
- Shinichi Suzuki

“A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.” 
- Tenneva Jordan

“Any man can be a father, but it takes a special person to be a dad” 
- Proverb

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(Copyright 2012 by Laurie J. Spector, M.S.W. and Ruth Spector Webster, M.S.W. All rights and all media reserved.)