THE LOST MY PARTNER NEWSLETTER

 

VOL. IV, Issue 2    February, 2006

 

 

Brought to you monthly by Laurie Spector & Ruth Spector Webster, authors of Lost My Partner – What’ll I Do?; A Clear, Practical Guide For Coping and Finding Strength When Your Spouse Dies

 

 

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Hello and welcome to our newsletter! We know how losing a spouse can turn your whole world upside down. It can also make concentrating on anything, even an online newsletter really difficult. Just as we’ve done with our bereavement book, Lost My Partner – What’ll I Do? we specially designed this newsletter to make getting valuable professional advice “user-friendly”. Each month we offer comfort, reassurance and practical strategies as well as useful tips from our readers.

 

We want to make this newsletter on ongoing source of support you can turn to any time, so please let us know how we can make it more relevant for you. We welcome any suggestions or ideas that you’d like to share with us.

 

Let us hear from you at: contact@lostmypartner.com

 

Thanks for joining us.

 

Warmest Wishes,

Ruth and Laurie

 

 

 

MONTHLY FEATURE

 

(Back by popular demand, here’s our February, 2005 article,)

 

HOW TO BEAT THE VALENTINE’S BLUES

 

It’s all around you. Painful reminders that you don’t have that “someone special” with whom to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Although your spouse isn’t here to share the day, try to expand your definition of “love”. Embrace all the other relationships in your life where you give and receive affection such as family members and good friends. Use the holiday to show your appreciation in some of following ways:

 

1. Schedule lunch or dinner with a good friend.
2. Remember when you were a kid and gave valentines to friends and classmates? Revive this custom with family and friends.
3. Show yourself some appreciation. On a valentine, list at least 2 things you’ve achieved since your spouse’s death that you used to think weren’t possible.
4. Treat yourself to some pampering (a manicure or massage), or buy yourself a “gift” (hobby items or clothes).

 

 

Remember that your marriage was just one of several caring relationships in your life.  This year, begin a new tradition by celebrating all of them.

 

 

YOUR QUESTIONS

 

“Since my wife’s death, I’ve spent the past year fixing up my house. My family worries that I’m not getting on with my life. My wife and I spent many happy years here and it’s a comfort to work on things that got neglected during her long illness. But I wonder if my family is right and I should try to get out more.”       Brian L.

 

As long as you’re taking care of yourself and not staying isolated from others, repairing your home may be what’s best for you at this time. When it comes to bereavement, everyone has their own unique timetable. Respect yours and ask others to do so as well.

 

 

 

Discovered a coping strategy that works for you? Share it with others in future newsletters. Email us at: contact@lostmypartner.com

 

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If you’re interested in obtaining a copy/copies of the book, you can buy immediately on our website, www.lostmypartner.com. Or telephone toll free at 1-877-727-3814.

 

 

(Copyright 2007 by Laurie J. Spector, M.S.W. and Ruth Spector Webster, M.S.W. All rights and all media reserved.)