Clear, Practical Advice for Coping and Finding Strength When Your Spouse Dies


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“A clear, compassionate guide with practical, powerful advice for moving from grief to gain. The revised edition adds even more outstanding advice to an already fabulous book.”
         --Harold H. Bloomfield, M.D., author of How to Survive the Loss of a Love

“Laurie Spector and Ruth Webster have done a splendid thing in making their hard-earned wisdom available…”
--Rabbi Harold Kushner, author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People

The enlarged 2nd edition offers:
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New and updated resources with online information
PLUS four new chapters! 

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Surviving the death of a partner is hard.

We can help make it easier.

Written by psychotherapists who are also mother and daughter, Lost My Partner offers the easiest and most effective techniques used professionally by authors Ruth Spector Webster (who lost her own husband), and Laurie Spector.

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Ruth and Laurie have distilled a wealth of time-tested ideas into a specially formatted book that can be easily read and used by anyone, especially those unable to concentrate because of grief.

Find out more about what’s inside the new Lost My Partner; Revised & Expanded Edition for you

Since it’s publication, many readers tell us that out of all the bereavement books they’ve received, Lost My Partner was the only one they actually used!

And because it’s so easy to read, it’s one of the rare bereavement books appropriate for giving a surviving partner at the time a death occurs.

This valuable guide is also ideal for:

  • Adult children or other family members
  • Friends
  • Helping professionals or physicians
  • Clergy

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“Having made my way through my own pain, I know how overwhelming the journey can look at the beginning. When my husband Don died of inoperable cancer, it felt like my whole world was turned upside down. I believed the pain of losing him would go on forever.
It didn’t. In moments of despair, I learned ways to keep myself going forward. It wasn’t easy and there were no shortcuts, but as time went on, I discovered that the pain did get easier and the small pleasures of life did return.
Having been in graduate school when Don died, I eventually received my degree as a psychotherapist. A few years later, my daughter Laurie also became a clinical social worker. By that time, I’d begun running bereavement groups and counseling the widowed. Laurie also went on to work with the bereaved.
We were both struck by how the inability to concentrate affected people who were mourning. When asked to recommend books, neither of us could find anything that took into account what our clients experienced and the difficulties they had attempting to read”.


Drawing on what worked best to get through her own loss, Ruth  combined her personal knowledge with the easiest and most effective techniques used in her and Laurie's professional work.

Their wealth of time-tested ideas includes:

  • Why it's important to learn to recognize and understand the many symptoms of grief.
  • How to tune out well-meaning pressure from others and give yourself permission to grieve in your own way and own time.
  • How to comfort and reassure a child of any age while you yourself are grieving.
  • Ways to gain a sense of control over anxiety, anger, and absentmindedness.
  • Tips for handling workplace challenges while you're slowed down by grief.
  • How to manage your eating, sleeping and health concerns more effectively.
  • Getting through holidays and special occasions the first year in ways that feel right for you.
  • Knowing when and for what to get professional help.
  • How to know when the time is right to move on to new relationships.


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